If you’re on OkCupid, you have probably at least heard something about their locals app. For those that haven’t, it’s an app you can use to see which users are near where you are and then meet up with them. Now, I can openly admit that I was a little hesitant to use the it at first. I am not sure why. But, eventually I caved and I have to say that I owe some of my best nights to that app.
However, as much as I say that I like the app I find that I get pretty annoyed with it as well. It’s not the app itself, it’s just that some of you gentleman are doing it all wrong. So, I am going to help you out a little.
Being on OkCupid locals does not make me your fuck buddy.
OK, I get that a lot of people think the app makes it a little easier to hook up on the internet. I am not saying that I condone this idea but I am also not saying that I am against it. But, that does not give you the right to message me at 3am and ask if I’d like to come over to your place when we’ve never even met face to face.
It’s also probably not the best idea to send me a message asking if I’m still DTF when we’ve never met face to face. We all know I am not a fan of that whole thing. And, if I call you out on it, don’t say you accidentally typed DTF and meant to type something else. There is no autocorrect in the world that will accidentally correct something to DTF. Sorry.
If you’re on OkCupid locals, be willing (and prepared) to meet.
I have actually found that guys on locals drag their feet more about meeting than guys on the regular site. Did you not understand what the point was when you started using the app? And, if you were merely just curious, how did you not understand the point when you actually started using the app?
Now, let me just say that I get that you’re probably sending messages to a few gals on there and maybe you end up finding one who is interesting so then you kind of forget about the others. I have no issue with this. The issue is the guys who contact me to meet but then want to chat for hours or suddenly start to have a list of excuses once the plan for meeting starts -- it’s too far, I have to shower, you’re with your friends, it’s too late and so on. If you’re not up for meeting, get off of an app that’s made to make it easier to help you meet people. That’s a pretty simple concept.
Don’t ask for my number and then start texting me to flirt with you (or ask for more pictures).
First, I am not sending you a picture of my boobs so just get over it. If you’d like to see my boobs then meet me in person and perhaps that might happen for you at some point. Second of all, I have no desire to sext with some dude that I have never met in person. They make all kinds of sites for that kind of thing. Go use them. Third, if I gave you my number it’s because it’s easier to make a plan to meet. Like I said, that’s the point of locals. It’s not so we can chat for the next four hours.
Speaking of chatting, leave the words “let’s chat” or anything related to chatting or talking out of your broadcast.
If you’re hanging out within a few block radius of me, why would I want to chat with you? Enough said.
If you’re on OkCupid locals please don’t talk about how bored you are.
We all get that maybe you’re on the app to put a little spice in your day/night. But saying you are bored on your broadcast is the equivalent to dudes who say they don’t really do online dating but decided to give it a try because a friend told them to. Translation? It’s not something you need to state. Ever.
It’s locals, not Facebook (though there are certain things you shouldn’t post on their either).
We all know how I feel about a certain kinds of Facebook posts. But really, locals isn’t Facebook (or Twitter or Foursquare). I mean, it’s really awesome if you are going to a cool show or whatever but you don’t really need to update your broadcast 20 times a day about every little thing you’re doing -- especially when those things make you too busy to actually meet someone off the app.
Have you used the locals app? What would you add to the list?